As a Woman/Wife

I use to look at myself in the mirror and say, why does he want others when I'm showing love and I keep my looks up. I just didn't understand it. I started to feel ugly inside and out. I was so confident and now, self conscious.

What I learned:

I learned that I'm not the problem, it was him. I learned to look at myself from the inside and out and I improved in areas that I know I needed to improve but it doesn't work if only one partner does that. You both have to look inside yourselves. It will improve your relationship or you will both realize that you have to be apart. Bringing your insecurities into your relationship will ruin it. You can end up cheating and looking for others to make you feel good and sometimes you cross lines by not caring who you hurt. You can also end up creating trust issues.The person doing the hurting will eventually have the other person never trusting and that will only be creating another problem. It can be a never ending problem.

I also learned to love myself and not to use my past negative circumstances to ruin my future. We can't change people. They have to want to change.