Rivalry between sisters were apart of my family. We would not talk and sometimes even say hurtful things that we allowed to effect our relationship.
What I learned?
Life is to short. I learned unconditional love and that it takes two to be a hot head. I love my sisters and I will never waste another moment not having them in my life. We all learned that we all have flaws but most importantly, we love each other and we also love and appreciate each others strengths and gifts.
Saturday, December 11, 2010
What I learned as a Mother,Person, Woman
I use to be so hurt over my children talking to people that has hurt me in one form or another.
What I learned?
That I am responsible as to how I allow a situation to effect me, so I should not take offense. I learned to congratulate myself for raising my children for giving people unconditional love. I also learned that just because they talked with them, doesn't mean that my children are purposely hurting me. I'm allowing that to hurt me, so I learned to turn that hurt into understanding.
What I learned?
That I am responsible as to how I allow a situation to effect me, so I should not take offense. I learned to congratulate myself for raising my children for giving people unconditional love. I also learned that just because they talked with them, doesn't mean that my children are purposely hurting me. I'm allowing that to hurt me, so I learned to turn that hurt into understanding.
Thursday, December 9, 2010
As a Friend/Person
When I would get hurt from someone that I knew, I use to be in shock and disappointed about what they did. Especially if they hurt me. It created trust issues. I didn't trust anymore and nothing shocked me. Made me bitter and sometimes knumb at heart.
What I learned?
When people hurt you, it has nothing to do with you. Its them. They have issues and sometimes those issues hurt the people that love them because of their actions. Betrayal is a hard thing, but remember you can't think everyone will betray you because you might be missing out in establishing real friendships.
What I learned?
When people hurt you, it has nothing to do with you. Its them. They have issues and sometimes those issues hurt the people that love them because of their actions. Betrayal is a hard thing, but remember you can't think everyone will betray you because you might be missing out in establishing real friendships.
As a Woman/Wife
I use to look at myself in the mirror and say, why does he want others when I'm showing love and I keep my looks up. I just didn't understand it. I started to feel ugly inside and out. I was so confident and now, self conscious.
What I learned:
I learned that I'm not the problem, it was him. I learned to look at myself from the inside and out and I improved in areas that I know I needed to improve but it doesn't work if only one partner does that. You both have to look inside yourselves. It will improve your relationship or you will both realize that you have to be apart. Bringing your insecurities into your relationship will ruin it. You can end up cheating and looking for others to make you feel good and sometimes you cross lines by not caring who you hurt. You can also end up creating trust issues.The person doing the hurting will eventually have the other person never trusting and that will only be creating another problem. It can be a never ending problem.
I also learned to love myself and not to use my past negative circumstances to ruin my future. We can't change people. They have to want to change.
What I learned:
I learned that I'm not the problem, it was him. I learned to look at myself from the inside and out and I improved in areas that I know I needed to improve but it doesn't work if only one partner does that. You both have to look inside yourselves. It will improve your relationship or you will both realize that you have to be apart. Bringing your insecurities into your relationship will ruin it. You can end up cheating and looking for others to make you feel good and sometimes you cross lines by not caring who you hurt. You can also end up creating trust issues.The person doing the hurting will eventually have the other person never trusting and that will only be creating another problem. It can be a never ending problem.
I also learned to love myself and not to use my past negative circumstances to ruin my future. We can't change people. They have to want to change.
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